Why do two people choose to be in a relationship with each other? Of course, the most logical answer would be that they are in love and would want to try how it is like to live together as one. But as you continue to face life this time as a couple did you ever thought about other things, aside from love, that has become very important in keeping your bond intact?
Well, a lot of people coming from different backgrounds have been saying that it’s not only loving that’s essential in a relationship. Sure, it serves as the core building block of your bond, but it doesn’t necessarily have to be the only key element in making the relationship work. If you are to ask couples that have lasted for several decades already, they’d tell you another thing that must be present in a relationship:
1) Respect sees through the good and learns to accept the bad:
When you are in love with someone, all you see are their best qualities, both inside and out. At the same time, you set aside their flaws and weaknesses, as tolerant these as much as you can. Respect doesn’t work that way.
When you have respect with the person you chose to be in a relationship with, you come to accept the person’s beauty and flaws, the bitter and sweet, and good and the bad. And from the acceptance, you both learn to adjust with each other’s systems and come up with a compromise that you can live with. Toppled with love, respect serves the fuel to keep any relationship moving.
2) Respect teaches you the value of patience, especially towards your partner:
It is hard to be patient when in a relationship, especially when you have grown accustomed to your partner’s flaws and attitudes. Also, there are a lot of instances when feel like you have already invested a lot on your partner and your bond, hence whenever conflicts arise you tend to put these thoughts into words at their expense.
3) Respect allows more tolerance, even when the both of you have already grown apart:
If you are to survey married couples on how they made their marriage last for a long time, you won’t always hear them say, love. Rather, you can expect them to mention the word “respect” more often.
This is because love has this tendency to fade over time. As you and your partner grow and spend more moments together, both in times of fun and strife, you both change. You grow out certain attitudes and feelings for each other, but the situation calls for you to stick together and carry on. Love –or more like the absence of it, only makes your setup worse, but it can be remedied if you both have respect for each other.
4) When you have respect, you won’t be tempted to do things that may damage your relationship:
If you have respect for your partner and your relationship, you won’t even think about cheating or other hurtful actions, because you know your limits and the repercussions of such moves. You’d be more concerned about how you two should grow not only as a couple but as individuals who have decided to stick together through thick and thin.
5) Respect breeds true love:
Lastly, respect breeds the kind of love that way beyond romance. It creates a love that understands and accepts, love that is willing to hold on and willing to let go, love that lasts and overcomes all the qualms and conflicts that you and your partner have had.