Ways To Make Your Marriage Even Stronger

You want to be with the love of your life forever, and he with you, so always make your marriage a top priority (as in every day!). Here are some easy and fun ways to keep improving an already awesome partnership. Even if you’re not married yet, you can start practicing these tips to enjoy your relationship even more throughout the wedding-planning process.

    Talk about your early days of dating:

    Rather than bringing up the past in a wistful sense (“why don’t we ever do that anymore…”), express appreciation for all the ways that your spouse has helped you. For example, you could say something like, “I was just thinking about that romantic dinner you planned by the fireplace on our third date. That was wonderful.” It’s an ego boost for him and it shows that you value his best efforts.

    Bond with each other’s friends:

    If you’re not already close with your husband’s friends, nor he with yours, plan occasional group outings so that you can all get to know each other better. When you mesh well with each other’s social circles, it enhances this important facet of your lives.

    Bond with each other’s families:

    It’s a gift to your spouse when you blend in well with his parents and siblings. Befriend them, give compliments, ask how their lives are going and smile. This is a big one, and it can be especially challenging if his relatives gave you a hard time during the wedding planning.

    You may not love them (and maybe you will someday), but make an effort to at least be cordial, forgive as much as you can and start fresh with them as a member of the family. If you keep giving your husband a hard time because of a rude comment your mother-in-law made, then he’ll become angry at you and it will cause cracks in your marriage, thereby letting her win.

    Drop your old issues:

    We all have scars and damage from our dating days and our families but don’t use an old fight as a weapon in a new one. It’s unfair to throw unresolved issues at one another — drop those sensitivities by avoiding hot button issues that you’ve already discussed (and hopefully resolved).

    If you’re still having trouble letting it go, consider journaling or talking to a counselor to prevent these bygones from weakening your marriage.

    Cook together:

    Make it an occasional treat to prep a new meal together. The sensory experience of cooking and co-creating a fabulous, romantic dish or snack is way better than popping some toaster tarts in the oven.

    Be financially responsible:

    Money is one of the top marriage stressors, especially in these challenging financial times. You both need the security of knowing that you’re each paying bills on time, and not making unnecessary purchases.

    Create a joint account for bills but also keep separate accounts for your own play money, and, of course, make sure you’re both socking away some money in your savings to contribute towards shared future goals.

    Most importantly, be financially honest with one another, no matter what. No secret spending or hiding it from your spouse if you’re having trouble paying a bill on time.

    Speak well of each other:

    If you vent to your friends or family members about a fight you had with your husband, they may not forgive him, even after you’ve forgiven and forgotten. It’s a betrayal to trash-talk your spouse to others, even if he made you mad. Your issues need to stay personal so that you don’t create problems in your social and family circle that will only grow worse over time.

    And his family and friends love it when you rave about his awesomeness, just as your loved ones will adore him for speaking highly of you all the time.

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