So, you’ve married the love of your life. Well, you haven’t just taken on a spouse, but their entire family too. Use these easy tips to help your in-laws fall head over heels in love with you.
Be humble – know your faults:
The most important tip for a healthy relationship with your in-laws is learning how to practice humility. You are just as aggravating as your in-laws are! Your quirks, weaknesses, and issues are just as confusing and difficult to accept as your in-laws’ quirks, weaknesses, and issues. You aren’t perfect. You are human, and you are making mistakes. That’s okay and natural and right, of course. What’s not okay is ignoring your own flaws and weaknesses, and focusing on the faults of others.
Stop judging your in-laws:
Judging others is such as waste of energy, time, and life. I can’t love and judge simultaneously. When I’m judging, I’m not letting God work, or be, or work through me. Judgment bears no fruit – there is nothing good or valuable about judgment.
Avoid being alone with difficult in-laws:
If you have serious relationship issues with one particular in-law – whether it’s a mother-in-law, father-in-law, brother-in-law, sister-in-law, etc – try not to put yourself in a situation that involves lots of alone time. This protects both you and them from potential problems, and always ensures you have a witness for things said and done.
Accept your in-laws for who they are right now:
You’ll never change your family of in-laws. They are who they are, and no amount of fighting or wishing will make that difference. Think how difficult it is to change your own personality or habits – it’s a million times more difficult to change other people! You can’t do it, so you must accept your in-laws for who they are. That’s one of the best tips for a healthy relationship with your in-laws, but it’s also the most difficult.
You aren’t the only one who is suffering. You may not know what issues your family of in-laws is struggling with, but I am 100% sure they are dealing with things that are more difficult and stressful than they let on. We’re all in pain – emotional, physical, spiritual, mental. If you believe in Jesus, then you know that suffering is part of being human. God is walking alongside you – carrying you, perhaps – to help alleviate your pain, to bring you peace and love and grace in all situations. If you don’t believe in Jesus, I encourage you to find ways to be kind to people. Be kind to yourself. Accept without judging or criticizing.