When you’re caught up in the excitement of your wedding, it can be hard to imagine that you and your partner might not live happily ever after. But sharing your life with another person can be a challenge, especially if you don’t have a lot of experience with relationships. Marriages take work, commitment, and love, but they also need respect to be truly happy and successful.
A marriage based on love and respect doesn’t just happen. Both partners have to do their part. Below are some important keys to work on each day to make your marriage successful.
Because no one is perfect, patience and forgiveness will always be required in a marriage relationship. Successful marriage partners learn to show unending patience and forgiveness to their partners. They humbly admit their faults and do not expect perfection from their partner. They do not bring up past errors to hold their partner hostage.
And they do not seek to make amends or get revenge when mistakes occur. If you are holding onto a past hurt from your partner, forgive him or her. It will set your heart and relationship free.
Relationships don’t work without the time investment. Never have, never will. Any successful relationship requires intentional, quality time together. And quality time rarely happens when quantity time is absent.
The relationship with your partner should be the most intimate and deep relationship you have. Therefore, it is going to require more time than any other relationship. If possible, set aside time each day for your partner. And a date-night once in a while wouldn’t hurt either.
Honesty and Trust:
Honesty and trust become the foundation for everything in a successful marriage. But unlike most of the other essentials on this list, trust takes time. You can become selfless, committed, or patient in a moment, but trust always takes time. Trust is only built after weeks, months, and years of being who you say you are and doing what you say you’ll do. It takes time, so start now—and if you need to rebuild trust in your relationship, you’ll need to work even harder.
Healthy marriage partners communicate as much as possible. They certainly discuss kids’ schedules, grocery lists, and utility bills. But they don’t stop there. They also communicate hopes, dreams, fears, and anxieties. They don’t just discuss the changes that are taking place in the kid’s life, they also discuss the changes that are taking place in their hearts and souls.
This essential key cannot be overlooked because honest, forthright communication becomes the foundation for so many other things on this list: commitment, patience, and trust—just to name a few.
Revealing Your Flaws is Worth It:
Revealing your flaws makes you more appealing to your partner and others. And taking off all your masks to express the parts of yourself that you’d rather keep hidden is going to naturally bring up feelings of awkwardness and discomfort—even fears of rejection. But it’ll be worth it because it’ll bring greater authenticity and awareness to your relationships.
Finding the Courage to Voice Your Feelings:
In addition to time and energy, it takes courage and the willingness to be vulnerable – to tell the truth about your thoughts, feelings, and desires to maintain a successful marriage. It takes courage to admit that you feel lost, scared, overwhelmed and discouraged if you are supposed to be the boss at work or the breadwinner at home.
A Successful Marriage Takes Patience:
Obviously, there’s a lot more that goes into creating more successful and authentic relationships, but I want you to try one of these as your homework assignment. Whether you’re married, in a relationship, or just want to work on your general relationships overall, I guarantee this will bring more joy into them. The main marriage tip for you to keep in mind on this journey: Be Patient!
It may take your partner, partner, family member, or friend time to face their fears or roadblocks before being able to meet you halfway. If you are committed to being your authentic self, spending quality time with your partner, and setting focused goals, you’ll solve the problem together.