The most essential aspect of determining the quality of your life flows through your self-talk. Running a close second as the most important and influential part of your life are your relationships. The people in your life contribute significantly to your well-being.
A healthy relationship requires that each person bring something unique and special to it. A healthy relationship happens when two people understand and appreciate each other. A healthy relationship exists when the value is placed not only on who you are together but also on who you are individual.
Two people develop trust because each has proven to be trustworthy and reliable. When tempted to betray the relationship in some way, they have held fast to the needs and feelings of the other person instead.
Learn to give and take feedback:
Feedback, in my opinion, is the food of progress, and while it may not always taste great, it can be very good for you. The ability to provide constructive feedback to others helps them to tap into their potential and can help to forge positive and mutually beneficial relationships. From your perspective, any feedback you receive is free information and you can choose whether you want to take it on board or not. It can help you to tap into your blind spot and get a different perspective.
The truth should be spoken in love, compassion, and tenderness. To a friend, the truth is not a weapon; it is a healing balm
Give people your time:
Giving time to people is also a huge gift. In a world where time is of the essence and we are trying to fit in more than one lifetime, we don’t always have the time to give to our loved ones, friends, and work colleagues. Technology has somewhat eroded our ability to build real rapport and we attempt to multi-task by texting and talking at the same time.
Being present in the time you give to people is also important, so that, when you are with someone, you are true with someone and not dwelling in the past or worrying about the future. The connection we make with other people is the very touchstone of our existence, and devoting time, energy, and effort to developing and building relationships is one of the most valuable life skills.
Proximity sometimes results in pain where human beings are concerned. Healthy people acknowledge this pain as an acceptable consequence of the relationship.
Listening is a crucial skill in boosting another person’s self-esteem, the silent form of flattery that makes people feel supported and valued. Listening and understanding what others communicate to us is the most important part of successful interaction and vice versa.
Active or reflective listening is the single most useful and important listening skill. In active listening, we also are genuinely interested in understanding what the other person is thinking, feeling, wanting, or what the message means, and we are active in checking out our understanding before we respond with our new message. We restate or paraphrase our understanding of their message and reflect it to the sender for verification. This verification or feedback process is what distinguishes active listening and makes it effective.
If the person you’re with shows little regard for your wishes and opinions, consistently puts their desires before anyone else’s, and seems thoughtless and uncaring about others, you’re probably in the presence of someone more selfish than selfless, more big-headed than bighearted.
If you have most—or all—of these qualities in your relationship, be assured that your relationship is headed in the right direction, which is toward a satisfying, successful future.